Miscarriage support and advice

https://www.facebook.com/miscarriagesupportandadvice

Miscarriage and stillbirth is still a conversational taboo. It saddens me that there is little change in the understanding and support of miscarriage since losing my first baby in 2006, almost 15 years ago.

It was around 12 years ago that I set up a facebook page to help not only myself, but others to know that we are not alone. It provided so much comfort to those in need of kind words or advice.

For anyone struggling right now here is the best advice I know:

• Talk to someone – choose your trusted friends or family members to share you deepest darkest days with. You may not want to, but know that they are there to listen and support as best they can.
• Follow the emotional rollercoaster – there will be good days and bad. It may start with more bad than good, but over time this will shift. Allow yourself to feel the emotions.
• Give yourself time – I know everyone is different, but allow yourself enough time to grieve. Your loss is real, no matter what stage you were when you miscarried.
• Create a memory box – when you are ready, create a memory box with little things that were important to you and the connection you had with your baby. I did this after a few months. It was helpful to know that I had a special box of things to look through when I wanted it, but that I could also put it away too when I needed to break away.
• seek professional advice if things become too much – grief can be oh so powerful and overcome us. Don’t be afraid to seek professional advice. I found counselling a really helpful way to process my thoughts.

Please do get in touch through my page should you want to talk (although I am not a medical professional).

That 30 Something Life x